Words of Wisdom: The Trap of Resolutions
"Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now."
— Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet
Let these words settle somewhere in your body.
We live in a culture obsessed with answers. With solutions. With fixing and optimizing and achieving.
But some things cannot be rushed.
Rilke reminds us that not knowing is not failure. Being in process is not weakness. The questions themselves—the uncertainty, the searching, the gentle confusion—are part of the journey.
Your unmet resolutions aren't problems to solve. They're questions to live.
What do I really want?
Who am I becoming?
What does my body need right now?
You don't need answers today. You need to live the questions.
Try this reflection:
What question have you been trying to force an answer to?
What if you just sat with it instead? Loved it, as Rilke says, like a locked room?
Write the question down. Then put it somewhere safe. Trust that the answer will come when you're ready to live it.
When the questions feel overwhelming, Calm Loop Toolkit can help you find peace in the uncertainty.